Long time

It has gone a long time since I wrote on this blog. A lot has happened in this five, soon six, month.

My Mom got a massive heart attack the 26th of June and did never recover from that. She died, 86 years old, the 23rd of September and after that I’ve had a lot to take care of.

I’ve been helping her with her invoices and other bank matters for some years now so it was me who took care of the paper work after her death too. Hopefully everything will be ready before the New Year is coming up. Otherwise I’ve to make her declaration two more years, 2013 and 2014.

I’ve also contacted a lawyer who is doing the inventory of her belongings and assets, and now I’m waiting for these papers to come back from the Swedish Tax Agency so I’m able to close everything after my Mom.

Mom’s apartment is emptied and clean, so now I only have to hand over the keys to the landlord one day the coming week.

It feels very strange and sad to know that this is the finally end. No more “fika” (coffee time/break) on Friday afternoons when I made her hair. I’ve done that for as long as I can remember.

When my Dad lived (he died in 2006) I used to fix his hair too, with haircut and sometimes his hair sprawled in all directions so I put some hair mousse in it so he looked more respectable.

My in-laws have also taken a lot of my time the last year actually. My mother-in-law has at last, after a lot of persuasion, a place on the elderly section in the service home they have lived at for the last six years. She has been there for a week now, and is not satisfied. She’s demented and doesn’t know/understand what’s best for her, she’s 89 years old.

I’ve also had to get some help for my father-in-law who’s 93. Now when he’s alone he needs to be looking after too. The home care service is coming daily to look after him, and that’s nice to know.

Hopefully I’ll get some time over for things I want to do for my self now when they are taken care of and my Mom (sadly) no longer is here. But that’s of cores only wishful thinking.

Bertil is getting more and more dependent on me because of his brain tumor. After four and a half years the illness is taking out the last of his strength. He has been taking/eating so much medicine (cytostatic) over these years so now it seems to knock back instead of helping him.

He has difficulties to walk, rise up from sitting to standing, is dizzy, and has got diabetes from all the cortisone, and thrombosis because of the cancer.

Most of the time I’ve hard to understand what he says and what he’s talking about. He’s fabricating own words and thinks that I’m able to understand them. According to him there’s nothing wrong with his talking, and I’m the one that is “sick” in my head. Every day is a challenge with him. Is he in a good or bad mood? Will he be able to get up from his bed today or do I have to call for help…? How long will it be like this and how long am I able to get along before I need help?! So far I’ve had the strength to keep my mind up, and that I’m grateful for.

He lies on his bed most of the day and is also sleeping a lot. His car has been standing unmoved for the last month and that is very reliving to know.

I really, really do not wish to see him “go”, but how long can a body be able to function on such low flame. It’s so very hard to see a person you have lived together with for 45 years be so helpless and most of the time very black hearted.

We met in 1966, I was 15 and he 19 years old. We were together as often as we could (read every day). He should know by now that I will do and are doing everything that I’m able to do for him, but in his eyes I’m not doing a shit.

It’s strange, I know him in and out, but after all these years he hasn’t a clew who I am in any way at all. Perhaps that’s a typical manly thing, I don't know.

On the bright side, today anyhow, is that I’ve been at a dance show. Agnes is participating in a dancing group for kids, “Funky Kids”. All the kids were dancing very good and seemed to have very fun on the stage.

Grandma's sweetheart

Agnes will be 8 years old on New Years Eve.

HAVE A NICE DAY!

KRAM EVA

Happy Birthday Agnes!

Today it's Agnes Day.

All day long!

It's her 7th Birthday!

Hipp, Hipp Hurray!

Congratulations Agnes!

KRAM

New Camera and New Cell.

Sometimes you "need" to buy new things for your self, and lately I have needed to buy me a new camera and a new cell. Nothing showy, but however new. I don't need much to be satisfied. 

The cell is a Nokia and has what I require from a cell. No more, no less. I don't want a toy, just something that is practical to phone with. The phone includes Internet, E-mail, camera and other modern things, so I am not totally a caveman (women).

The camera is a Nikon and has 14,0 Megapixels and shot movies in HD, so I am very pleased with my new tools.

My old cell has ended up in a drawer, and my two old small cameras I have given to my grandchildren. As you can see down under, they will have a lot of fun with them. Both Agnes and Tintin has already taken a lot of shots, and Agnes has figured out how to make movies. An uncostly enjoyment for a long time ahead, and perhaps a prospectively interest for taking pictures.

 Tintin...

...and Agnes.

HAVE A NICE DAY!

Kram Eva

Pain, cold and a nasty cough

Pain, cold and a nasty cough is what I have to put up with right now. Not surprising perhaps, since Agnes and Tintin have been very ill last week. Now they are on the mend (thankfully), but it was a bit dramatic last Tuesday when Tintin had a seizure due to a rapid temperature decrease. Hopefully, it was both the first and last time he should have to experience something like that. Both children and parents did see a doctor to get a helping hand. Agnes had a severe respiratory infection and had antibiotics. Tintin did not need any medicine.

Otherwise, life has been about as usual, except that my husband also has a cold and coughs a lot.
Today he was on his usual MRI screening on Ängelholm's hospital, which is made about every three months.
We will get the result from this screening next week, 6 April, when he's (we) going to Lund to visit his doctor at the neurological section.

It is equally unpleasant each time before we get to know what it looks like inside Bertil's head. It's a little more than three years now, since we got to know about his brain tumor, so he has made a several of these screenings by now. He had unfortunately one set-back about a year ago when the tumor started to grow again. Then he had to start with chemotherapy monthly for five days each time. Since then it hasn't change. So far so good! Knock on wood!

The weather is still cold here, but fortunately we haven't got more snow anyway. The sun is peeping through now and then, but not more than a day now and then.
As we use to say:
"He who waits for something good never waits too long".

Have a nice day!
Kram Eva

Happy Birthday Agnes!

Today little Agnes will be 6 years young.

Happy Birthday Dear Agnes!

Hope You will have a very, very fun day!

Kram

Hipp, Hipp Hooray!

Today we have celebrated Maria's Birthday! She will be 29 on Tuesday the 21st. She had made a very tasty Birthday cake.

Maria's cake.

Clownish Agnes and Tintin were also celebrating Maria today =)

Kram Eva

New Design

I've made new design on my blog!
I had some problems with my other blog Hovdamen, got a BUG, so I'd to change the whole blog design over there.
Then I thought that this blog also needed a make over. I hope you like it?

HAVE A NICE SUMMER DAY!

KRAM EVA

A very fun day!

Agnes and Tintin have been here most of the day and we have had a very fun day together :-)

Tintin on his Runbike.

 Agnes in full speed. She has only been able to bike for a week.

 Grandma's Darlings!

 Tintin :)

 Agnes has picked some Wood Anemones.

 Lovely Wood Anemones.

 Wow! So many Wood Anemones Grandma!

HOPE YOU HAVE HAD A NICE DAY TOO!

My Little Pony

Agnes loves to play with auntie Maria's My Little Ponies when she's visiting us. When Tintin is taking an afternoon nap, she's able to play without interruption from her little brother.

HAVE A NICE WEEK!

A Great Artist!

Two lovely horses, mother and child, a small cloud and a nice warming sun.

Agnes, 5 years old, did this lovely drawing about a week ago on her mother's old slate. I've saved that slate through the years so if I got grandchildren they could be able to use it. Bertil made it for Anna and Peter about 30 years ago. Nice when old things will be used again. The slate has two sides, so two kids are able to draw at the same time =)

HAVE A NICE DAY!

Cleaning

Drawn by Agnes, 5.

Today I've tried to clean up in all my cupboards and drawers. If we are able to sell our house sometimes in a near future, I want to have everything sorted and ready just to move.
I've been sorting, cleaning and chucked away a lot of empty paper boxes that I've saved. The boxes have housed some technical things like camera, photo scanner and so on. How silly of me to save things like that, but if you need to make a complaint after you have bought something you have to have the box.

HAVE A NICE DAY!

Halloween!

Happy Halloween everybody!

HOPE YOU WILL HAVE A SCARY DAY!!!!!

Different Activities :)

Visited my grandchildren some days ago and they always have some fun activities going on. Agnes loves to draw all sort of things, color in her many painting-books, cut, paste and pottering (scrapbooking).

Tintin has got hold of a small foot file. He must have seen how mom or dad are doing their feets, because he's doing it all right.

Grandma's cutiepies :-D

HAVE A NICE DAY!

Slide Show

I'm just wondering...
What do you think about my little Slide Show to the right in the margin? It's Maria's collection of My Little Pony that I've saved for her all these years. She started to collect them sometimes in the end of the 80's. She was 6 years old =)))
Agnes loves to play with them all ;-)

Megan

HAVE A NICE DAY!

Laughing =)

Today I've been laughing a lot =) I've had my grandchildren here for three days and we have had a lot of fun during these three days. I would lie if I said that I'm NOT tired after thre days with two small children, but that doesn't matter when you are having fun :))))

A great hug!

Running around =)

Agnes is whistling :)

Cutie!!!

Gamine (busfrö) ;-)

Grandpa is coming!

Happy!!!

"Water" painting =)

HAVE A NICE DAY!

No Snow?

Only a lot of green grass!!!
I had my grandchildren here for some hours today. We had a very sunny and warm day here today, so we spent some of these hours outside in the garden =)
Both Tintin and Agnes got there eyes on the plastic sledges that I've stored in our conservatory so they wanted me to take them out so they could play with them.
Unfortunately Tintin thought that he could "drive" the sledge with the steering wheel, so he had a very hard work to get it back and forth on the law and tried to make me understand that I should drag him around at the lawn. Of course I understood what he meant and wanted, but I was the one who held in the camera so what could I do??? =))))
Unfortunately Tintin isn't talking a lot - yet, but with sign language he's getting very far ;-)
Agnes used her sledge as a rowboat, and she pretended that there were a lot of sharks in the water ;-)

HAVE A NICE DAY!

Junk Food!

I went to Ängelhom with Anna and the children yesterday to fetch up their car that had been on service. As every other child Agnes and Tintin want to eat at Mc Donald's. Don't know why, because when they have got what they have asked for, what ever it could be - Happy Meal, Milkshake, icecream..., they just eat a small amount of the 'food'. Perhaps it's not the food that makes children want to go/eat at that 'unhealthy' place. Must be something else, but I don't know what it is. Do you?

Sweethearts!!!!

Tintin is a real bundle of energy. Her he's standing in the high chair :/

Best to hold Mammies hand.
You have to sit down!!!!!

HOPE YOU HAD A GOOD AND TASTY DINNER!